Resolving Emotional Issues About Your Cesarean Birth

12 Mar

Some mothers recover quickly after a cesarean. They resolve and integrate their birth experience as one step towards becoming a mother. Some mothers who have had an unexpected cesarean after a long and painful labor may experience disappointment, loss, sadness, grief, guilt or anger. Often the emotional impact of a cesarean is misunderstood, dismissed, or overlooked. Sometimes mothers have unresolved issues about their cesarean. It is normal to experience a combination of positive and negative emotions.

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When you are ready, it is important to take the time to process your feelings about your cesarean before you give birth again.

  • Find the right time.
  • Find a safe place.
  • Find someone you trust.
  • Begin to share your cesarean experience.
  • What are the positive things you can think of?
  • Think about what you would like to have done differently.
  • Think about what you need to feel empowered and ready to labor for a VBAC.
  • Talk to your partner about how you feel.
  • Share your experience with other mothers who are likely to understand.
  • Reach out to a cesarean/VBAC support group.
  • Write or draw your feelings in a journal.
  • Hold your baby in your arms and share the positive feelings of your birth experience.
  • Gather as much information as you need to help you understand your cesarean and how to make the changes that you want for your next birth.

For more information about emotional issues after a cesarean download Module 8 of Deciding If VBAC Is Right for You. 




Postpartum Support International

The Traumatic Birth Prevention & Resource Guide

Solace for Mothers

Birth Trauma Association, U.K.

Vancouver Birth Trauma

Trauma and Birth Stress, New Zealand

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